Death is something I've never been comfortable talking about unless it was caring for someone else. I was able to work in Hospice with other peoples loved ones but that was as far as I could go. My grandmother died a few weeks back and I went to say my goodbyes to her and it was the hardest thing I have ever experienced. I took one look at her and I knew it was close. She was a wonderful Christian woman, she wasn't the least bit scared because she knew she was going home. The very last thing she said to me was, "Don't be scared, remember I will always love you." She died two days later. She left my grandfather behind, and he's not an easy man to understand. I remembered the Kubler-Ross's Stages of Grief and he was in denial from the time we put her on hospice until the day of her funeral. On the day of her funeral something changed. He left the funeral, without saying goodbye to anyone, and angry.
Watching my sick grandmother slowly pass was what I think of when I think of death and dying. I knew there was other ways to die but it never really dawned on me that people actually die in other ways. Clinical death is technically when the person has stopped breathing and their heart is no longer beating. This can be reversed by CPR which is why I urge almost everyone I know to know how to do CPR. Another type of death is Brain Death. This generally happens when there is a lack of oxygen for about 8-10 minutes. Once brain death has occurred a person will enter a permanent coma, while the body can remain alive until the brain stem ceases to function. Then the person is dead. Biological death happens after clinical or brain death. This happens when the rest of the body functions begin to stop working, when it is "no longer possible to descern an electrical charge in the tissues of the heart and lungs".
Wednesday, April 19, 2017
Thursday, April 6, 2017
Kassondra Amato Chapters 9&10
Immediately after probably one of the most confusing times in a young adult's life(adolescence) comes something called emerging adulthood. When I first began reading chapter nine I must say, I was unaware emerging adulthood was even a stage. I believed for as long as I can remember it has always gone from adolescence to teenager and on to young adult. When reading through the table on page 208 titled American Rites of Passage table 9.1 it became more clear how large this portion of a young adults life is. I have hit many of these milestones, I have a checking account, a credit card, I got my first real job a few years back (or what seems to be a few years), and next weekend I will be getting married. I've never been "hazed" and honestly I'm okay with that after hearing some horror stories! All around the world people have traditions or ceremonies transitioning these young people into adulthood! It's all so fascinating.
A few things in chapter nine really stuck out to me the first one being the obesity rates. If I read the map on page 213 correctly it showed only one state had a less than 20% obesity rate. This is insane to me! I only say this because as I look around and started to really observe the people around me I didn't feel like I saw too many adults over 20 that were obese. There are many things I believe to incorporate into this to make this chart more accurate and really get a good look at what is going on. The first one would be to take out the percentage of people with chronic disease or illness that contributes to their weight. I feel that it is along the lines of being "unfair" to incorporate these people into a general population overview.
Something else that really stuck out to me was the binge drinking chart. It's really no secret that most people drink or that underage people drink- that's been happening as long as I can remember. But when I looked at the gender, I was a little surprised that men held the higher percentage. However, when I reflect back to my personal experience I can say there was generally more men at the bars drinking at the bar over women.
On page 223 there is a table, Table 9.3 Number and rate* of births to unmarried women and married women in the United states. I've heard over and over again there are more people having children out of wedlock and I hold no judgement because I am one of those women. With that being said I am not surprised that since 1980-2006 the number of births to unmarried women has gone up a little over 20%. As I look around now, I see many people who have chosen to wait until into their thirty's and married. I just read an article the other day that said women were waiting to have children until they were settled within their career and married.
On page 244 the text begins to talk about Erikson's seventh stage of psychosocial development ages 25-65. This stage is called Generativity versus stagnation. If I understood this stage correctly Erikson believed at this stage adults either became useful to themselves and society(Generativity) or bored, self absorbed, and unable to contribute to society. Something on page 244 really hurt to read was that people who have procreated and fall into stagnation resent the neediness of their offspring? What I want to know is how this can happen or why? I look at my children everyday and wonder where I would be without them, I could never resent them. I'm sure a few sleepless nights get to me and they probably think I am just a crabby person, but I could never "resent" them. It's very sad that a child would be subjected to a parent that feels in such a way.
Both of my parents came from broken homes. Both of them were abandoned by their parents. One went into foster care and the other went on her own and somehow made it. I would not say they successfully completed all prior psychosocial crises that define the human lifestyle. But what I would say is that they are both successful adults who are in the Generativity phase, Eventually, I would like to do more research on this to see really how "true" Erikson's theory has proved to be.
A few things in chapter nine really stuck out to me the first one being the obesity rates. If I read the map on page 213 correctly it showed only one state had a less than 20% obesity rate. This is insane to me! I only say this because as I look around and started to really observe the people around me I didn't feel like I saw too many adults over 20 that were obese. There are many things I believe to incorporate into this to make this chart more accurate and really get a good look at what is going on. The first one would be to take out the percentage of people with chronic disease or illness that contributes to their weight. I feel that it is along the lines of being "unfair" to incorporate these people into a general population overview.
Something else that really stuck out to me was the binge drinking chart. It's really no secret that most people drink or that underage people drink- that's been happening as long as I can remember. But when I looked at the gender, I was a little surprised that men held the higher percentage. However, when I reflect back to my personal experience I can say there was generally more men at the bars drinking at the bar over women.
On page 223 there is a table, Table 9.3 Number and rate* of births to unmarried women and married women in the United states. I've heard over and over again there are more people having children out of wedlock and I hold no judgement because I am one of those women. With that being said I am not surprised that since 1980-2006 the number of births to unmarried women has gone up a little over 20%. As I look around now, I see many people who have chosen to wait until into their thirty's and married. I just read an article the other day that said women were waiting to have children until they were settled within their career and married.
On page 244 the text begins to talk about Erikson's seventh stage of psychosocial development ages 25-65. This stage is called Generativity versus stagnation. If I understood this stage correctly Erikson believed at this stage adults either became useful to themselves and society(Generativity) or bored, self absorbed, and unable to contribute to society. Something on page 244 really hurt to read was that people who have procreated and fall into stagnation resent the neediness of their offspring? What I want to know is how this can happen or why? I look at my children everyday and wonder where I would be without them, I could never resent them. I'm sure a few sleepless nights get to me and they probably think I am just a crabby person, but I could never "resent" them. It's very sad that a child would be subjected to a parent that feels in such a way.
Both of my parents came from broken homes. Both of them were abandoned by their parents. One went into foster care and the other went on her own and somehow made it. I would not say they successfully completed all prior psychosocial crises that define the human lifestyle. But what I would say is that they are both successful adults who are in the Generativity phase, Eventually, I would like to do more research on this to see really how "true" Erikson's theory has proved to be.
Monday, April 3, 2017
Chapter 8 Kassondra Amato
Adolescence is defined as the period after a child begins puberty this is when a young person develops from a child to an adult. Now thinking about adolescence myself the first thing I think of is puberty. I generally relate the two because I relate to when a girl begins to menstruate is when adolescence beings. What I didn't realize was that on page 186 in Life Smart it is said that adolescence starts at 11 years old for girls and 12 years old for boys. There are many other things that are supposed to gauge when adolescence begins. Some of these things are listed on page 186 as well and include when a child develops an interest in sex, when a child became really moody, and when a child begins to wonder who they really are. Some of these things, like the interest in sex, threw me off a little bit because it wasn't something I though 11 or 12 year old thought about. Now I'm even more nervous for my children to grow up!
Physical development is also important in adolescence. Some physical development include breast development, voice change, and pubic hair. As a young person, I was always taller than most of the boys and it made me really self conscious. My mother always told me that boys grew later than girls did and I never believed her. Sure enough, as I got older I stopped growing and I am pretty average height. Once the boys around me started growing I wasn't as tall as I thought I was! My brother too, he was so much smaller than I was and then all of the sudden when he was probably 16 he shot up and now hes 6'6"!
Cognitive development is huge in adolescence. Not only does the child go through major physical growth, but the brain of an adolescent grows too! On page 191 it states that "changes in the young adolescent's ability to think may go unnoticed, yet growth spurts in the parietal and frontal lobes of the brain, and well as sub cortical regions, make possible tremendous changes in the quality of a teenagers thinking"
Something that really stuck out to me in this chapter was on page 193, Adolescent ego-centrism. This was "coined" by Elkind, and refers to "adolescent's tendency to exaggerate the importance of, uniqueness, and severity of their social and emotional experiences. Their love is greater than anything other have experienced. Their suffering is more painful and unjust than anyone else's". I believe this really stood out to me because last week was Spring Break here in my daycare center and during that time I was with my School-Aged children from the summer time. Most of the children were the same children I have been with during school breaks for the last year. Last week, some of my girls, and one of the boys in my class were just acting out of their norm. When investigating a little bit, one of the girls started to menstruate that in itself helped me understand her. The other girls were just very unruly, and everything was drama so much drama in a week it was hard to continue our routine with the children. After reading this portion of the text and relating it to the children and their ages it makes much more sense why they were acting in a such a way I never expected from them. And to think they aren't even at the peak of it, age 13, according to Elkind and Bowen.
Something else that drew my attention was the How to talk to teens about sex (or Anything else) on page 197. I always wanted to be the parents that my children can talk to. Mostly because I felt like I couldn't talk to my mom about everything. This is just another tool to help adults communicate with children. I strongly feel that if adults could communicate effectively with our youth there would be less of many things, suicide, bullying, teen pregnancy. As adults and future educators it is our priority to help guide our youth, because they're scared, confused, and sometimes just need someone to listen.
Physical development is also important in adolescence. Some physical development include breast development, voice change, and pubic hair. As a young person, I was always taller than most of the boys and it made me really self conscious. My mother always told me that boys grew later than girls did and I never believed her. Sure enough, as I got older I stopped growing and I am pretty average height. Once the boys around me started growing I wasn't as tall as I thought I was! My brother too, he was so much smaller than I was and then all of the sudden when he was probably 16 he shot up and now hes 6'6"!
Cognitive development is huge in adolescence. Not only does the child go through major physical growth, but the brain of an adolescent grows too! On page 191 it states that "changes in the young adolescent's ability to think may go unnoticed, yet growth spurts in the parietal and frontal lobes of the brain, and well as sub cortical regions, make possible tremendous changes in the quality of a teenagers thinking"
Something that really stuck out to me in this chapter was on page 193, Adolescent ego-centrism. This was "coined" by Elkind, and refers to "adolescent's tendency to exaggerate the importance of, uniqueness, and severity of their social and emotional experiences. Their love is greater than anything other have experienced. Their suffering is more painful and unjust than anyone else's". I believe this really stood out to me because last week was Spring Break here in my daycare center and during that time I was with my School-Aged children from the summer time. Most of the children were the same children I have been with during school breaks for the last year. Last week, some of my girls, and one of the boys in my class were just acting out of their norm. When investigating a little bit, one of the girls started to menstruate that in itself helped me understand her. The other girls were just very unruly, and everything was drama so much drama in a week it was hard to continue our routine with the children. After reading this portion of the text and relating it to the children and their ages it makes much more sense why they were acting in a such a way I never expected from them. And to think they aren't even at the peak of it, age 13, according to Elkind and Bowen.
Something else that drew my attention was the How to talk to teens about sex (or Anything else) on page 197. I always wanted to be the parents that my children can talk to. Mostly because I felt like I couldn't talk to my mom about everything. This is just another tool to help adults communicate with children. I strongly feel that if adults could communicate effectively with our youth there would be less of many things, suicide, bullying, teen pregnancy. As adults and future educators it is our priority to help guide our youth, because they're scared, confused, and sometimes just need someone to listen.
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